Honesty is considered one of the most important virtues in today's fast-paced world, but let's be honest: Where do we still encounter sincere honesty in everyday life? In times of fake news and countless half-truths on the Internet, honesty and truth have taken on a whole new meaning these days. Even in the advertising industry, it often seems as if appearance is more important than reality. In everyday life, we encounter honesty in many different ways. Many everyday sayings and proverbs reflect how we deal with honesty and dishonesty and what this value means to us.

 

"If you tell a lie once, you won't be believed".
t is often easier to tell a lie than the perhaps unpleasant truth. It is easy to start lying, but it is usually difficult to get out of it and stop. If the told lies then fly sometime on, one notices only, what they can cause Involved persons feel betrayed, in friendships or partnerships the confidence is lost and interhuman relations break. Just as the saying here goes, "he who lies once is not believed," lying can have lasting consequences in our dealings with one another. No long-term foundation of trust can grow on a lie. Wouldn't it be better to be honest and communicate openly with those around us about what's going on inside? It can be hard to admit things to ourselves, but it is important to keep your honesty. Figuratively, honesty can be thought of as a fragile vessel, containing a precious commodity that must be handled with care. With every lie, a crack can appear that cannot be repaired and leaves traces.

 

"Lies have short legs"
This proverb is probably the most well-known and probably the one with the greatest truth content. Even as a child, we used to be admonished that one must not tell lies. One might think that some have forgotten this again in adulthood. Lies may be an easy short-term solution for a moment, but in the long run they won't solve any problems. No matter whether smaller white lies (as one says so nicely) or large lies: Obviously, you are deceiving others by not telling the truth, but aren't you also deceiving yourself? Lying to yourself leads to inner imbalance. Sooner or later, the truth always comes out. Living with constant lies that become more and more entangled can also have serious psychological effects. But how can you always be honest? There are many ways honesty shows itself. Being honest is more than speaking unpleasant truths, entirely without embellishments and downplaying. It also includes the little things, such as expressing your opinion freely and being authentic.

 

There are enough reasons not to be honest:

  • Overplay insecurities
  • Do not hurt others
  • Have peace
  • Hide fear
  • Spare trouble
  • Pretend image
  • Cheer someone up
  • Be liked

Do these reasons sound familiar to you?

 

"When the Mask Drops"
Gründe, um zu lügen kennen wir alle. Der Hauptgrund für die Meisten ist, vor Anderen besser dazustehen. Um den Schein zu wahren, geben wir manchmal vor Jemand zu sein, der wir eigentlich gar nicht sind. Wir tun es der Werbeindustrie gleich, die für Kosmetika und andere Produkte mit beschönigenden und idealisierten Bildern arbeitet.

The "mask" we put on can look very different. Some put on makeup or change something on their body, others maintain their flawless Instagram feed with posed photos and fool their followers into thinking they have a perfect life.

At some point, everyone realizes that a put-on personality is not desirable. You are not only pretending to others, but you are also not being true to yourself. Taking off the mask, coming to terms with yourself and your own truth is a challenge. But it is worth it and is the best way to be authentic, without the self-deception that we often encounter nowadays on the ubiquitous Internet.

58% of Germans lie every day, but how do they lie?


73%

Direct conversation

23%

in writing

22%

by phone

"Any little honesty is better than a big lie"
Honesty does not mean having to give an account. Honesty means self-reflection. With a lie, perhaps our reality can be turned in our favor in the short term to make us feel better. But, to be truly honest, sometimes we have to take things as they are and make the best of them. Honesty is something you can grow from and with.

Any little honesty is better than a big lie, because lies are often accompanied by disappointment when it all comes to light. Disappointment, anger, and maybe doubt? If you know you just lied to a loved one, can you even look at yourself in the mirror? Maybe you have self-doubt, but in any case, you've not only made yourself feel bad, but at some point you've also made the other person feel bad. And ... was this lie really worth it?

Radical honesty can sometimes make our outer life harder, but it always makes the inner life easier. Learning to be honest with ourselves and others is a process. An important process to know and live true authenticity, because we know: Honesty lasts longest.

 

 

Let's face it, none of us wants to be lied to. So why do we do it ourselves so often?

 

 

 

Authors: Julia Hefele, Stefanie Medve